Today you are 14 months old! While 13 months was quick, 14 was slooooow, and I can’t believe it’s only been a month and not a decade since the last letter. Let me just say in advance, you have changed A LOT this month.
Like previous months, you continue to be the most excellent at independent play. As I write this, you are happily playing at my feet, dancing to the music on your push car. You absolutely love music and are a bit of an aggressive dancer. You like to play specific songs over and over and over and over again, meanwhile, you do the baby version of a head bang while looking at us like, mom, why aren’t you dancing? So then we dance with you and it’s pretty hilarious. You also will do the same head bang when you want us to sing more. I honestly don’t know if any mother has ever sang The Itsy Bitsy Spider as much as I have in the car in recent days.
When I started this letter last night, I said you weren’t walking yet, but as of today, at exactly 14 months, you appear to be taking steps. I say appear because you did it when I wasn’t home, so I can’t verify, but your dad says you took 10 steps today and I really appreciate how you waited until I was around to do that. You are VERY motivated to move, but you are cautious and up until today, unless you’re holding onto us or a stationary object, you crawl instead of walk. You are standing independently multiple times a day now and every time I’m surprised by how big you look. Before this month I had never seen you, an independent boy, in the middle of the room like that and it’s still so strange.
You have become incredibly, aggressively social. You started waving months ago, but you never really did the closed/open hand wave, you kind of did the limp wrist wave (I don’t know why, but you were serious about it), but now you’re all about the closed/open hand and you wave at EVERYONE. Sometimes you point at them first like, hey you, look over here, and then you wave right at them, so there’s no question who the wave is for. You especially love to wave very close to people’s faces and it slays me. The poor boy sitting behind us at the baseball game was so tired of waving at you by the 9th inning, but you were so excited to have someone to wave with. It was adorable.
Your language skills continue to grow. You still call all the things you love dogs, but every once in a while you’ll say cat (“at”), up (“bup”), please (“seeeees”), cheese (“sheeeees”), milk (“uuuuuuma” I really don’t know why, but yea) and once you even parroted thank you, but that appears to have been a one time deal. You also say your own name (“lie-shuh”) and I love it so hard. Seriously. It is the best. (Turn your speakers up and wait for it)
You also learned to clap this month and well, shockingly, I find it adorable. You still aren’t a clapping pro, but you are a very good audience member nevertheless. Also, this video is so horrible, but it was the first time you ever clapped and I love it. Sorry I’m not sorry.
You spent your second 4th of July at your first baseball game last week and though it was pretty late, you had a GREAT time. I thought your little pointer finger would fall off from all the pointing. You also loved the fireworks (more so with the noise canceling headphones) and though you were so very tired, you couldn’t stop watching (and pointing). It was a very fun evening.
Your likes this month include: music, water (unless it comes from a shower or hose), Glen (your monkey blanket), being outside, your grandparents, Aunt Claire, Uncle Scott and sometimes Addie, climbing, the cats (particularly their tails), cheese, your pups (pacifiers), watermelon, hot dogs, bottles and your bed.
Your dislikes this month include: showers, hose spray, sippy cups filled with milk, not being allowed to crawl wherever you want, when we try to direct you to a new activity, when we try to get you to walk a direction you don’t want to, hot car seats, carrots and bananas.
This month has been an interesting one and I feel like for the first time, much of it has been filled with you being unhappy. You want to walk so very badly, you want to be independent and be put down in public and the fact that you can’t do it by yourself leads to fits and bouts of arching or bonelessness and it’s both frustrating and very sad to watch. I know you want to be big and you’re at a hard age, and we just want to set boundaries to keep you safe, so while you may think that we’re the worst for not helping you walk barefoot through a parking lot, we’re not just being mean, we’re being parents. I hope you know that though these kinds of boundaries are infuriating to you, that they’re also all there because we love you and want to keep you safe.
Despite your frustration, you are such an awesome little person to be around every day. You love things so fiercely and are so easy to laugh, that it’s impossible to be frustrated or unhappy around you. Even on the worst days, there is so much more laughter than there was before you were here. So many more smiles, so much more happiness.
You have started giving out unsolicited moments of love this month and it’s probably my favorite new thing. You aren’t terribly big on kisses, but you give “bonks” where you lean your head into ours. Sometimes you’ll crawl all the way across the room just to give a bonk and then go back to playing, like you just want to remind us that you love us. I’m not a touchy feely person at all, but you break down my barriers every single day and I would cuddle you forever if I could.
Much has changed this month and I know that more change is headed our way in the coming weeks and months. I hope that these changes help give you some of the freedom and independence you are craving, but know that no matter how big, fast, or independent you get, you will always be my little boy. You will always be loved more than anything else in this world. That nothing has ever been more treasured than you are.
Elijah, we love you so very much and cannot wait to see what next month brings.