I don’t really like to write antagonistic blog posts. I don’t like moderating comments or dealing with strongly held beliefs. But this blog post needs to be written. It needs to be said. I can’t stay quiet anymore.
That’s what we’re talking about. Because I read a blog post last week that pissed me off. I am sure that the woman who wrote it is a nice person, I’m sure that she believes that she is right. I know she believes that the bible backs her up, that all of us, including her children, will be better off if we stop homosexuality in its tracks.
And I respectfully disagree. And I want to tell you why her arguments and others I’ve heard don’t work for me.
Argument 1: The Bible
Please, for the love of God, stop using the bible to defend homophobia and hatred. Stop using God and Jesus as your reason to hate your neighbor, to deprive them of your support, to deprive them of the same rights and privileges that you enjoy each day.
Yes, there are bible verses that speak of homosexuality.
“…Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” 1 Corinthians 9-10
“If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” Leviticus 20:13
But wait, that first one says that adulterers are equally evil? So then, if we’re using the bible literally, if we are taking it on it’s word and putting each verse into law, shouldn’t we disallow marriage between adulterers? And between alcoholics, thieves, and those who have been sexually promiscuous? I find it very odd how the rules in the bible only seems to apply to gays.
The bible also says that you shouldn’t eat or touch pork products, that you shouldn’t eat shrimp, and that if you curse your mother or father you should be put to death. It also clearly says you should love your neighbor as yourself.
Your bible is not a cafeteria, you cannot choose the parts you want to follow, ignore the rest and stand on high moral ground. Either stand behind it’s words and ideals or don’t. But only standing behinds the parts that fit your needs, your agenda, is not good enough.
Argument 2: “The Sanctity of Marriage”
I’ll be honest. Even typing the word sanctity with marriage made me laugh. In 2008, statistics indicated that 40% of marriages had ended in divorce. FORTY PERCENT. Another study in the United Kingdom showed that 27% of divorces were from adultery, 17% from abuse and 6% from addiction.
Can someone please show me how marriage is sacred? Because the institution that you’re talking about doesn’t exist. And letting gay couples marry isn’t going to change this imaginary construct you have. It isn’t going to destroy marriage, it isn’t going to devalue yours. My marriage has absolutely no impact on yours and yours has none on mine. But then again, maybe gay marriage has some sort of super power that I’m not aware of.
Argument 3: Homosexuality is a choice
It’s funny how the only people who believe that homosexuality is a choice are heterosexuals. I don’t know about you, but I never made a choice to like men. I just always liked them.
And while I firmly believe that it’s not a choice, the bottom line is that it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if it’s a choice or if you were born that way, or if it’s a mutation from radioactive spill. It. doesn’t. matter. Because homosexuals are citizens, just like you and me. They pay taxes, they vote. They aren’t criminals, they aren’t any less than anyone else and there’s no reason you can deprive them of the same rights you have. That is criminal.
Argument 4: It’s a slippery slope
This is my favorite. People who believe that if we legalize homosexual marriage that we will then have to let people marry horses or inanimate objects. Exactly how many people do you think want to marry animals? Because I’m almost 100% positive that it’s not as many people as you imagine. No one is going to force you to marry a horse, and seeing as how horses aren’t citizens, I think you can safely set this concern aside.
Argument 5: But what about my children!
I had a teacher in high school who was a devout Christian. I had another who was a Jew. I had an athiest for one class and I’m sure a handful of agnostics for others. Funny story, I didn’t switch religions because of their religion. It didn’t make me change my beliefs or morals. The only thing that did change was my knowledge in english, math, social studies and science.
Homosexuals are no different. They’re not there to teach your children about their sexuality, or about their religious convictions, or any other agenda people seem to think they have. And moreover, knowing you child’s teacher’s sexual orientation is none of your business.
I could literally go on and on forever. I mean, I pretty much have. There are so many arguments against letting gays marry, there are so many excuses to hate people who are different. But when you dig deep enough, when you really look at all of this, it doesn’t add up. It’s not about religion. It’s not about the sanctity of marriage. It’s not about the root of homosexuality or your children. It’s about change.
Change is scary.
90 years ago, the idea of letting women vote terrified men across this country.
50 years ago, the idea of letting interracial couples marry was threatening to many throughout the US.
Change is always met with resistance.
But it never needs to be met with hatred.