Comments on: War of words

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 07:27:57 +0000

Sadface and ouchies. Your strength really is impressive. I know my mood is worse when I’m in pain. I’m very grateful that my pain has been less the last year or so. (I think I’ve strengthened my lower back muscles, which were my main source of pain…)

*hugs*

By: Stephen

Stephen — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:07:46 +0000

Fear of the known. The worst fear.

By: Shana McQueen

Shana McQueen — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:42:13 +0000

Maybe it’s time to start making lists of pros and cons, of taking a break from school, or going part-time; and putting a lot more effort into improving your quality of life. It sounds like you think that delving into pain management means you’re giving up. Instead of wondering, helplessly, if this will last 6 years or 60, make it better, one day at a time, by taking steps to pain mngmnt and maybe going to school part time. I’m almost 30, have been in or accepted to grad school three times, and had to stop for reasons beyond my control. I applied to an online program, my husband doesn’t have a job again as of 3/31 and I HAVE NO IDEA when we’ll start a family. I can relate to your helpless despair. But I’m doing everything I can to make it better. I hope soon you can get to the place where you’re willing and ready to do the same for yourself.

By: Sue G

Sue G — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:29:21 +0000

I’m sure the people who love you hurt FOR you, but are not hurt BY you for being ill.

Do not take on one more thing to beat yourself up about. You are doing everything possible to make your life as normal as you can. And considering all that you have to deal with, you do an amazing job of it.

Don’t stop believing in yourself. And don’t ever stop believing in love.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:47:58 +0000

If you quit, then what? You may still have the pain because I don’t think school is causing it. I could be wrong. I had to quit working because the pain made my brain so fuzzy I couldn’t count any more beans (I was an accountant) but honestly I hated my job, so… Well you’d think the pain would go away, I’d get unfuzzy and I’d get a new job that I liked. Hasn’t exactly worked out that way.

You are rethinking your life and your choices because you are in pain, you are unhappy and you feel you are causing your friends and loved ones a lot of work. Just be careful. You’re going thru a hell of a lot and you need to make sure your observations are accurate.

I really hope I’m making sense and not stepping where I shouldn’t.

By: Bethany

Bethany — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:22:49 +0000

You’re not alone. There are millions of people each year diagnosed with chronic conditions that will cause them pain and that will never, ever go away. The difference being that someone with a definitive diagnosis immediately knows what they have and and begin to grips with it quickly. You, understandably, are stuck in limbo, not knowing what is wrong or how long it will last. I can’t imagine how frustrated you are, but perhaps talking to a professional specializing in chronic pain will help? The therapist I work with has helped me see that I don’t have to let my disease or my pain define or control me. That’s not to say I didn’t go through several ugly stages of grief before seeing the light.

You have a gift for writing and I really enjoy following your journal. I hope things improve for you soon.

By: Another Becs

Another Becs — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:28:21 +0000

Quitting school now does not mean quitting it forever.

I’m sorry if this sounds snotty – it isn’t meant to be. But are you putting a lot of energy into fighting the pain? Pain itself is exhausting, but fighting it makes it even worse.

I think a couple of drs suggested pain management. Is this an option for you, while you’re pursuing the cause of the pain?

And as far as depression goes, the right medications are everything.

I wish you well.

By: GreenInOC

GreenInOC — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:53:26 +0000

I have been sick for 15 days. Other than flying home (the first two days of it I was out of town), I have done next to nothing.

When I do anything (go to the grocery store, take the dog for a walk, etc…), I am exhausted and worn out.

Here you talk about going to school full-time, maintaining a marriage, going out with your husband, meeting friends, going to family gatherings. Doing all of this while battling six months of pain. I am truly blown away by your strength.

By: Patty

Patty — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:28:05 +0000

Katie, I wish, somehow that I could say something that would make everything better for you! You are an amazingly strong person and whatever you do? It will be ok. It will. There is no right answer and all that you can do is survive and hopefully do so in as little pain as possible. Hugs from AZ, @1mcmommy

By: Mary Jo

Mary Jo — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:22:53 +0000

I’m sorry, I wish words would help. In the end you have to do what you feel needs done. Quitting or not. Happiness is tough when you’re in pain. I wish you had answers. Hugs.