Comments on: Burdens to Bear http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/ Witnessing absurdity since 1983. With room for crazy since 2007. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:09:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: EmmieJ http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5694 EmmieJ Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:41:11 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5694 Without wanting to sound too much like a cliche, there is nothing I wouldn't do for my child. Even though you're a grown up, I'm quite certain your mom feels the same way. One of the greatest parts about being a parent, sibling, spouse, or friend is the honor to serve those we love in the way they need us, when they need us. To feel guilty about it is to dismiss some of the fundamental truths about human connection. So stop it, dammit. ;) Be grateful, yes. Be ashamed, no. I love you, hon. Without wanting to sound too much like a cliche, there is nothing I wouldn’t do for my child. Even though you’re a grown up, I’m quite certain your mom feels the same way. One of the greatest parts about being a parent, sibling, spouse, or friend is the honor to serve those we love in the way they need us, when they need us. To feel guilty about it is to dismiss some of the fundamental truths about human connection. So stop it, dammit. ;) Be grateful, yes. Be ashamed, no.

I love you, hon.

]]> By: Karen http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5667 Karen Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:26:24 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5667 Hello, I had remembered that you mentioned your husband wanted to go to Haiti to help. I figured i'd share with you about this team they are putting together that will be paid in full. They are looking for all types of docotrs to leave for Haiti on Monday. Maybe your husband would be interested. The contact information is shaunking@courageous.tv and his twitter page is http://twitter.com/ShaunKing They need all Doctors willing and maybe they can even arrange something different if your husband really is willing to go. I hope so. God Bless and Thanks. K Hello,
I had remembered that you mentioned your husband wanted to go to Haiti to help. I figured i’d share with you about this team they are putting together that will be paid in full. They are looking for all types of docotrs to leave for Haiti on Monday. Maybe your husband would be interested. The contact information is
shaunking@courageous.tv
and his twitter page is
http://twitter.com/ShaunKing
They need all Doctors willing and maybe they can even arrange something different if your husband really is willing to go. I hope so. God Bless and Thanks.
K

]]> By: Elizabeth Kaylene http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5658 Elizabeth Kaylene Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:43:30 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5658 Don't feel guilty. Your family and friends and husband should help, should want to help. That's what they're there for. If they needed the help, you would be there for them, so try not to beat yourself up about it. I hope the lumbar puncture goes well. It's hard to imagine anything with the word "puncture" in it going well, but I hope that it gives you the answers you need. Don't give up. Don’t feel guilty. Your family and friends and husband should help, should want to help. That’s what they’re there for. If they needed the help, you would be there for them, so try not to beat yourself up about it.

I hope the lumbar puncture goes well. It’s hard to imagine anything with the word “puncture” in it going well, but I hope that it gives you the answers you need. Don’t give up.

]]> By: Stephen http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5657 Stephen Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:35:42 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5657 Alice said what I was going to. Nothing wrong with affirmation of reciprocal love. As a matter of fact it is exactly those affirmations that keep us from coming unstuck. Alice said what I was going to. Nothing wrong with affirmation of reciprocal love. As a matter of fact it is exactly those affirmations that keep us from coming unstuck.

]]> By: Mrs. D http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5656 Mrs. D Thu, 21 Jan 2010 18:48:24 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5656 I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all these types of pain - and I understand that guilt can be one of the worst kinds. But as others have pointed out, I truly believe that friends and family WANT to help. Their love and concern for you outweigh whatever inconvenience they need to go through to help out. At least, this is how I feel when others need me. Maybe that's why we have friends and family - to be able to offer support and to be supported. I'm betting our comments won't erase the guilt, but I sure hope it lessens it. Sending you positive thoughts for this week's LP! I’m so sorry you are having to deal with all these types of pain – and I understand that guilt can be one of the worst kinds.

But as others have pointed out, I truly believe that friends and family WANT to help. Their love and concern for you outweigh whatever inconvenience they need to go through to help out. At least, this is how I feel when others need me. Maybe that’s why we have friends and family – to be able to offer support and to be supported. I’m betting our comments won’t erase the guilt, but I sure hope it lessens it.

Sending you positive thoughts for this week’s LP!

]]> By: alice http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5655 alice Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:18:44 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5655 I was a caregiver to my best friend's children while she (with her husband by her side) battled terminal cancer. I haven't been on your side of the fence, but I have been on your mom, sisters, and husband's side...and I can tell you that it was my honor to help my friend in her time of need. That is what you do when you love someone. And I'm guessing your family feels helpless about your pain - so the things they CAN control and they CAN do - well it makes them feel like they are helping - even in a small way. Don't look at yourself as burden. Love is never a burden...and even if it is at times - it is one most of bear happily. Praying that your procedure goes smoothly and answers are coming your way! I was a caregiver to my best friend’s children while she (with her husband by her side) battled terminal cancer. I haven’t been on your side of the fence, but I have been on your mom, sisters, and husband’s side…and I can tell you that it was my honor to help my friend in her time of need. That is what you do when you love someone. And I’m guessing your family feels helpless about your pain – so the things they CAN control and they CAN do – well it makes them feel like they are helping – even in a small way. Don’t look at yourself as burden. Love is never a burden…and even if it is at times – it is one most of bear happily.
Praying that your procedure goes smoothly and answers are coming your way!

]]> By: Diana Lee http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5654 Diana Lee Thu, 21 Jan 2010 13:48:08 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5654 I think there is a point where it is healthy to start accepting that there isn't going to be any real answer or solution to your pain. That's not to say that I am always in a place where I can face that, but when I can it makes things much less miserable. I don't want my life to be like this, but since nothing I've done has made my health better, I know in my heart I have to learn how to be as happy as possible given my shitty limitations. I hope the test goes smoothly tomorrow. Thinking of you. I think there is a point where it is healthy to start accepting that there isn’t going to be any real answer or solution to your pain. That’s not to say that I am always in a place where I can face that, but when I can it makes things much less miserable. I don’t want my life to be like this, but since nothing I’ve done has made my health better, I know in my heart I have to learn how to be as happy as possible given my shitty limitations.

I hope the test goes smoothly tomorrow. Thinking of you.

]]> By: Mary Jo http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5652 Mary Jo Thu, 21 Jan 2010 06:37:07 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5652 I know you don't want to be a burden, and I know needing help really sucks. I have to believe though that the people in your life don't think of it the same way. They love you and want to do everything they can. Just remember that you are loved, with or without pain. Hugs I know you don’t want to be a burden, and I know needing help really sucks. I have to believe though that the people in your life don’t think of it the same way. They love you and want to do everything they can. Just remember that you are loved, with or without pain.

Hugs

]]> By: steph http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5651 steph Thu, 21 Jan 2010 06:36:21 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5651 I had to skim over a few parts of this because it was like salt in a wound. We're in similar boats, you and I. Don't try to control what you can't. It'll make you crazy. The thing is, with loved ones, they LOVE you. So sacrifices aren't as bad as you think they are. Would you do it for them? I bet you would. Buck up, little camper. :) That was a weird thing to say, probably, but it always made me laugh when my step-dad used to say it to me as a kid. I had to skim over a few parts of this because it was like salt in a wound. We’re in similar boats, you and I.

Don’t try to control what you can’t. It’ll make you crazy.

The thing is, with loved ones, they LOVE you. So sacrifices aren’t as bad as you think they are. Would you do it for them? I bet you would.

Buck up, little camper. :)

That was a weird thing to say, probably, but it always made me laugh when my step-dad used to say it to me as a kid.

]]> By: Wendy http://overflowingbrain.com/2010/01/20/burdens-to-bear/comment-page-1/#comment-5650 Wendy Thu, 21 Jan 2010 06:04:57 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=2259#comment-5650 I don't know you, and I don't like hugging, but if I could I would give you a hug right now. I'm so sorry that you're hurting, in all the ways that you're hurting. I don’t know you, and I don’t like hugging, but if I could I would give you a hug right now. I’m so sorry that you’re hurting, in all the ways that you’re hurting.

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