Comments on: Can’t I just hug it out instead?

By: alumiere

alumiere — Fri, 07 May 2010 08:09:59 +0000

Hi. Found your blog through this weeks carnival on funny stories. It seems I have some catching up to do with your writing.

But I wanted to say thank you. You write well and with humor as you struggle with what sound like similar issues to some of mine. I hate the guinea pig feeling I get when no-one can figure out the cause (in my case it’s Transient Global Amnesia on top of fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, hashimotos thyroid, systemic candidia, and… all developed or diagnosed in the last 10 years).

I find myself wishing I’d liked pre-med or bio-chem/chem-e enough to not change my major after three years of undergrad sometimes, just so I could figure out WTF the Doctors are saying. But then I remember that I hated that stuff, so instead I try to reach out to people who are/have been through similar situations and need help, and do my best to re-wire my brain for a short time each day to comprehend the science behind all this stuff.

Since I’m just now reading January, I’ll hope that you’ve gotten some answers and if not a cure at least some relief.

By: pixielation

pixielation — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 10:17:41 +0000

I hope it went well, and you were able to get something unexpected out of it. I think talking through things can often be so cathartic that you just feel better having voiced things.

It may not fix your headache, but it certainly might help in other ways.

By: Deanie

Deanie — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:34:24 +0000

I understand what you mean. I thought the same.
But actually, a therapist doesn’t only listen to your words. I’m sure he or she will see (in mimics or whatever) the pain you’re in. You’re not considered a “weak” woman just because you tell people about your pain. And I agree, you deserve a damn medal for your strenght! I honestly admire you.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:47:45 +0000

I felt the same way when I started seeing the psychologist in March. It took me six months to even admit that I might need that help, and that was only after I broke down in front of my kid. It has helped, like Joanne said, just to have someone impartial and non-judgmental to talk to. I hope you get that same feeling from it. Good luck.

By: Sueg

Sueg — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 07:28:20 +0000

A really good therapist will validate your feelings and show you some ways to cope, some ways to change and grow, and maybe will help you truly see yourself the way most of us see you…capable, smart, pretty, strong, witty, warm.

I went to a therapist who told me I wasn’t my mother. I thank him every day of my life (in my heart). Nicest thing anyone ever said to me.

By: TheQueen

TheQueen — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:15:40 +0000

You wouldn’t think at first it’s worth paying for, but it’s nice to hear an objective opinion. Someone who doesn’t want to be your friend or your enemy.

By: Mrs. D

Mrs. D — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 03:53:50 +0000

I’d say print out this blog entry and take it with you. A therapist should be able to address all these concerns.

In any case, I hope that you are able to get a lot out of it! Maybe at the very least s/he will have some coping ideas… or stress relief strategies… or meditation techniques that you will find to be useful. Good luck!

By: joanne

joanne — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 03:44:24 +0000

sometimes is just nice to talk…to someone, anyone who will sit and listen without judgment or criticism…works for me anyway. Good luck.

By: Shana McQueen

Shana McQueen — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 02:36:12 +0000

Who says that all you’re going to talk about is the headache since August? There is so much more to you than that. Look for helpful nuggets of insight about the other parts of your life, like your marriage, or your shitty family. Think of this session as “pain management” for your mental health. That may be bad advice. The therapist will not be able to stop this pain, but he or she will be able to help you cope with it, in ways that I hope you’ll find refreshingly amazing.