Comments on: Taking the bull by the horns

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 18:04:53 +0000

Girl those people are ass holes!!! The family member is rediculous! (sadly I have a couple just like that) as for the Twitter person, they need a life. You are such a strong person, and it’s so easy to take everything personal, but please don’t let it get to you. Hugs to you.

By: Sherry

Sherry — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 20:22:26 +0000

I just recently started reading your blog (as in this is the forth post of yours I have read) and this makes me so mad. I find it hard to believe people are that mean. I quit following a blog because her husband lost his job and all she did was whine about it. She never once said what they were doing to look for new jobs, just, whahhhh, he lost his job. I feel sorry for them, but they can change their paths. You, on the other hand, have been handed something NO ONE should have to deal with. If you feel the need to whine, there are more people here to support you than to bring you down. I wish you the best.

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:54:24 +0000

I agree with you in the way you’ve written it. If people want to attack what I’ve written, then fine. Attack it for being poorly written or boring. But to attack an update about something that has happened in my life? That’s not attacking what I wrote, that’s just attacking me.

To be perfectly honest the tweet about the whining didn’t get to me nearly as much as the one about the ski lift. I know I whine and anyone who has read here knows I whine.

But to make fun of something that happened (that fucking hurt too), is just wrong to me.

But I shall strive for manganimousity next time anyways.

By: thenambypamby

thenambypamby — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 15:45:14 +0000

I understand the upsetting nature of when people scoff at what you’ve written. It sucks when you pour your heart and soul into a missive then share it with the world only to find that there is someone out there poo-pooing you.

However, that is the nature of the internet.

When you publish your thoughts, you are going to get criticism. It happens. You have to accept it. And move on. People don’t like everything that I write, I get snarky comments and the such all the time, but that doesn’t mean I am going to respond to it. As a writer that puts her thoughts into public, you have to accept that criticism comes.

To attack it is to give it validation. To republish it is to lend it a voice. To ignore it is to be magnanimous.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 05:58:45 +0000

It is a researched and documented that talking about your chronic pain will help you. Blogging about it will benefit you. Sorry you have jackasses trying to harsh your mellow. You don’t need to be kicked when you are down. I hope you get answers soon. I would hate to have to come out of lurking mode again.

By: terrifik

terrifik — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:21:23 +0000

When you lived in New Orleans you wrote of many misfortunes but not of the headache. It was a kind of calamity Jane routine that you meant to be sort of funny I think. When its not about the headache then it was healthy to laugh at calamities that were just inconvenient, costly, or embarrassing — but not the headache – the headache isn’t funny.

I think these people didn’t appreciate that the headache is different, and not at all funny every not at all.

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 20:22:00 +0000

The small penis thing killed me. hahahaha

By: Elizabeth Kaylene

Elizabeth Kaylene — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 18:58:36 +0000

A family member of mine sometimes rolls their eyes, makes “ugh” noises, or picks on me when I talk about my pain or the consequences of my illness. It hurts, so bad, especially because this person is supposed to support me.

I think a lot of people don’t understand what they can’t SEE. It doesn’t make their behavior right, don’t mistake me! But when you physically look “fine” and don’t feel fine, people are a lot more judgmental and asshole-y.

I have yet to get the blog/Twitter trolls, so maybe my two cents isn’t worth shit, but just ignore this Twitter douche. You can tweet and blog about whatever the hell you want, and fuck the people who make fun of you. Really, this guy apparently has nothing better to do.

Please try not to let it get to you. I know some days it’s harder to let it roll off your back, but just remember that there are a whole bunch of people who do understand what you’re going through and do support you. I am here for you, if you ever need to just vent or whatever. I don’t care how often you complain. I will keep reading your blog and Twitter (unless you do something douche-y to me, but I really don’t see that ever happening), and I will keep being there for you.

Anyone who isn’t can take a fucking hike.

By: Karen Chatters

Karen Chatters — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 18:37:55 +0000

You have to think that the bully in the Internet, probably doesn’t have any friends. He gets a rise out of insulting and hurting others, it’s to make up for his lonely and sad existence. Or perhaps his small penis.

As for the family member, ignore him. If you have to go to something he’s at, just keep your distance. And if he says something insulting, tell him to get a life.

People can really suck. I’m sorry that your Christmas was ruined by Uncle Suck. Who needs them?

By: Lela Willey

Lela Willey — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 16:43:50 +0000

I follow you because of who you are. I follow your blog because it makes my problems seem smaller to see what you are going through and how you deal. I was celebrating with you when you passed your tests and the semester. I read to see you admit to the stupid things that happen and then mine don’t see to stick out as bad.

I know I complain when it hurts to breathe and there are family members I don’t go around much. I’m sorry you have members who can’t or won’t step into your shoes for a bit and see what you are doing despite the pain you are enduring. I haven’t had a migraine in a while but if what you are enduring is like that, I have no idea how you continue to function.

I read your blog and twitter to get inspired. Keep your head up; I would guess there are a lot more like me than the ones who read to put you down.