Comments on: Get my feet back on the ground

By: Elizabeth Kaylene

Elizabeth Kaylene — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:39:55 +0000

I just want to tell you that it’s OKAY to not know. It’s OKAY to use this blog, Twitter, and whatever the hell else you want to let out how you’re feeling. You have every right to complain. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. If people don’t want to read, they can find a new blog.

You also have every right to not know whether you want to see a therapist. I have lows all the time, and even though I advise everyone else to see one, I hate going to the therapist myself. It doesn’t work for me. And that’s OKAY.

I’m not saying it will or won’t work for you. I’m just saying that it’s okay to feel the way you feel, especially considering the surfaces. I encourage you to continue to reach out to others; it’s when you stop sharing how you’re feeling, how down you are, that you’re in trouble.

I’m here if you need me.

By: kathryn

kathryn — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:33:01 +0000

You are an incredibly strong person, Katie. I don’t know you, but can certainly see the strength you possess in spades.
A friend sat with me until I made the call. The reason for my desire to finish this life was different than yours. However, I was at the end, my toes were figurativly curled over the edge.
I am forever grateful for my friend, for her ability to read between the lines and see the truth about my situation. I am also grateful for the person I went to see. I saw him 3 times – it was enough.
If you feel you need to make the call, do it. Don’t look around for a sign…just do it.
You have been on the road no one would want to walk on. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, Katie.
A prayer is going up for you.

By: B

Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:52:10 +0000

Lady, being whacked out is the new normal, this is your chance to be just like everyone else You’re already acting on your need to unload via blog, so laying your issues on a professional who has the perspective, tools, and perhaps most importantly the desire to help you is just one more small step. From what it sounds like, you take very difficult steps every day so I know you can do this too!

By: alice

alice — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:03:35 +0000

“When you have come to the edge Of all that you know And are about to drop off into the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or You will learn to fly”

Here’s hoping you find your wings.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:46:25 +0000

Firstly, don’t feel bad about unloading on your blog. You have a blog to write about what YOU want to write about. If it helps you, then do it.

Secondly, admitting that you might need to go to a therapist or need other outside help is the first step toward doing it. My problems are NOTHING compared to you, but I had been having anxiety-type issues for months (really, when I look back, years), and my husband finally convinced me that I should go to the doctor about it. He gave me a prescription for Xanax to use when I start to feel anxious, and it’s worked wonders! I’m now thinking about looking into going to some sessions with a counselor. It was really hard for me to go to the doctor about my issues, but it really ended up helping me, my marriage and my job.

Just keep mulling it over, and I’m sure that soon it won’t feel so devastating. There’s nothing wrong with needing an impartial person to talk to and work with you, and it doesn’t make you “not normal.” I know you probably know that in your head, but it’s hard to reconcile with your emotions.

This is a long way of saying: think it over, talk it over with your husband, and hang in there!

By: Flea

Flea — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 12:56:10 +0000

Chica, there is no normal. Not anywhere. Anyone. You know that. I’m hoping you make that call soon, go see an objective third party. That’s all a good counselor is. They don’t fix you. They just see the stuff you’re too close to see. You know that, too. Do what’s right for you.

By: Another Becs

Another Becs — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 11:10:19 +0000

Can you be good to yourself? Can you let someone else help you carry the load or at least help you reposition the weight? If you can’t call a therapist, what about your rabbi?

By: joanne

joanne — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:00:40 +0000

you should, you must, you need to help yourself, we need you to feel better, it really is worth it…we’ll be here.

By: TheQueen

TheQueen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:09:48 +0000

It was hard when I did it, but remember, trying therapy does not mean you need therapy. That’s how I started the meds. “I’ll take this for six weeks, and it won’t do a thing, so I’ll just prove it and then they’ll see I am a Very Bad Person.” It is entirely possible you don’t need therapy. So try it.

By: Sue G

Sue G — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:01:08 +0000

You’re not abnormal, Katie. You’re overwhelmed. If you can get some peace by talking it out with someone, then do it.

If you’re abnormal for getting help if you need it, what do you call it when a person believes they need and want help and doesn’t reach out for it?

You twist yourself into such a tug of war with yourself knot that it becomes impossible to move. Just move, honey, and wait for your understanding to catch up with your action.