Comments on: It stops here

By: cb

cb — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 23:10:54 +0000

I arrived here after searching for “it stops here”. Your post echoes something I have arrived at – especially the bit about being supposed to me part of my support system.

Pre christmas I arranged for the first time ever to go and see a professional for help as I want someone to be in my corner – even if for now it has to be someone I pay for.

I feel really proud for having done this and this is my way of saying “it stops here”

Good luck .. it’s a difficult situation

By: Sue G

Sue G — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:54:58 +0000

Wow. I stay away from the computer for a few days and look at how much I miss.

Good for you. I know you think you’re talking to “her” in this update…but, you’re really talking to yourself. The side of you that is the fighter is talking to the side of you that has been taking it for so long.

Yay, fighter!!!!

By: nicopolitan

nicopolitan — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:38:18 +0000

[delurk!] As much as it hurts to reflect on circumstances like you must have gone through, we readers love to see you put your foot down.

Hopeless? Hardly.

By: Janet

Janet — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 23:39:29 +0000

I know how you feel Katie!

I kind of just posted a mini-blog like that myself the other day!

xoxo

By: Flea

Flea — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:48:17 +0000

I suspect that Beth is right. Anya, too. Having been there and literally done what you are going to do, it does take forgiveness. But forgiveness sometimes requires distance to be effective long term. Distance to give perspective. And no need to walk back to the relationship once forgiveness is given. The other person may never be capable of relationship. They may always grind their heel into your very last nerve. Step out and away, woman.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:09:01 +0000

Go Katie!

And Eliza can suck it.

By: alice

alice — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:44:47 +0000

Isn’t it funny how people we call “family” can hurt you more than a stranger. The good news is, you can pick your family. And you have to do what’s best for you. I hope it all works out.

By: Anya

Anya — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 12:50:11 +0000

Not to pick on this person who I’m pretty sure may be a person in a medical field but why in the world would you argue that a surgery that was performed by a brain surgeon was not a brain surgery? Also, as far as I know your mother is an adult that can choose which days off she takes without anyone else’s assistance. My suspicion is this person that appears to be “smart” and “together” is actually desperately jealous of you b/c your illness gives you some of the attention and they want it all. That just makes them pitiful. Who is jealous of someone with a chronic health problem? Maybe one day you can get to the point where you feel sorry for her because she really is pathetic. Hang in there girl. You have many people that are supporting you and praying for you!

By: gina

gina — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 12:18:07 +0000

I lived this before. and I walked away…it wasn’t easy but I did it. Stay strong and hugs to you!

By: Megan

Megan — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 08:20:36 +0000

Maybe you’d feel the same if you didn’t get respect from someone who has been around you throughout your entire life, Eliza, someone who is supposed to be part of your support system. Katie has a right to be frustrated when someone she is close to chooses to be negative instead of supportive towards her pain. She’s putting up with so much. Maybe you should re-examine whether YOU are 6-years-old or not through reading her other blog posts and seeing the kind of pain she’s been through over the past few months.