Comments on: The one where I try really hard to find the silver lining http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/ Witnessing absurdity since 1983. With room for crazy since 2007. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 18:47:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Sue G http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5033 Sue G Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:03:22 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5033 Uh oh. There it is again. Hope rears its ugly head. Again. Another epiphany telling you that failure isn't about not winning....it's about not trying. And try you do so well, Ms Katie. You show up even when more of you is in intractable pain than the person actually showing up. Yet you still take that proverbial stab at succeeding. And, to me, that's where the success truly lies...in the showing up. It would be so much easier to give up. Oh, how well I know that. I believe in you. No matter what you DO, I believe in who you ARE. And I will keep believing in you until you absolutely believe in yourself. I can hear it coming. Just around the corner. Maybe down the street. Next to that cake waiting to be eaten. But it's there. Thanks for you kind words on my CB page. You know better than most how hard it can be at times. Uh oh. There it is again. Hope rears its ugly head. Again. Another epiphany telling you that failure isn’t about not winning….it’s about not trying.

And try you do so well, Ms Katie. You show up even when more of you is in intractable pain than the person actually showing up. Yet you still take that proverbial stab at succeeding.

And, to me, that’s where the success truly lies…in the showing up. It would be so much easier to give up.

Oh, how well I know that.

I believe in you. No matter what you DO, I believe in who you ARE. And I will keep believing in you until you absolutely believe in yourself.

I can hear it coming. Just around the corner. Maybe down the street. Next to that cake waiting to be eaten. But it’s there.

Thanks for you kind words on my CB page. You know better than most how hard it can be at times.

]]> By: Flea http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5032 Flea Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:19:27 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5032 Hoorah for huge realizations! You go, girl! Did the laughter help your head? Did you at least forget the pain at all? Hoorah for huge realizations! You go, girl!

Did the laughter help your head? Did you at least forget the pain at all?

]]> By: Elizabeth Kaylene http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5031 Elizabeth Kaylene Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:41:50 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5031 I'm so relieved for you, that you've realized this. It took me a long time to realize it, but once I did I felt a huge weight lift off of me. You will be just fine, and I hope that things start to look up. *hugs* I’m so relieved for you, that you’ve realized this. It took me a long time to realize it, but once I did I felt a huge weight lift off of me. You will be just fine, and I hope that things start to look up. *hugs*

]]> By: Sam http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5030 Sam Thu, 05 Nov 2009 10:30:59 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5030 Good for you Katie!! Your a freaking trooper. And without meaning to blow wind up your ass - a bit of inspiration too ;p Good for you Katie!! Your a freaking trooper. And without meaning to blow wind up your ass – a bit of inspiration too ;p

]]> By: Anne http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5029 Anne Thu, 05 Nov 2009 06:11:45 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5029 I've been gone from the Land of Blog for a few days and just finish reading your last few posts. Katie - you are an amazing woman. I’ve been gone from the Land of Blog for a few days and just finish reading your last few posts. Katie – you are an amazing woman.

]]> By: Lauren http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5028 Lauren Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:45:38 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5028 I don't know you at all, but I've gone through a tangentially similar Something, and there was a Tom Petty lyric that I always thought of when I was slogging through it all: "It never goes away/but it all works out." I don’t know you at all, but I’ve gone through a tangentially similar Something, and there was a Tom Petty lyric that I always thought of when I was slogging through it all: “It never goes away/but it all works out.”

]]> By: Beth http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5027 Beth Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:45:22 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5027 I'm glad you've reached this point. That's the thing I keep asking myself when I look at situations. What's the worst thing that happens if I try X or I do or don't do Y. And when I realize that about 95% of the time (when it doesn't involve feeding children and dogs), no one is going to die if I don't succeed or whatever, it makes me feel strangely better. Still have to remember to feed the dogs (though we've delegated the younger one to the boy child. He's doing pretty well with that, mostly). I’m glad you’ve reached this point. That’s the thing I keep asking myself when I look at situations. What’s the worst thing that happens if I try X or I do or don’t do Y. And when I realize that about 95% of the time (when it doesn’t involve feeding children and dogs), no one is going to die if I don’t succeed or whatever, it makes me feel strangely better.

Still have to remember to feed the dogs (though we’ve delegated the younger one to the boy child. He’s doing pretty well with that, mostly).

]]> By: suz http://overflowingbrain.com/2009/11/04/the-one-where-i-try-really-hard-to-find-the-silver-lining/comment-page-1/#comment-5026 suz Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:19:02 +0000 http://overflowingbrain.com/?p=1608#comment-5026 believe it or not, your realization is EXACTLY what i've been trying to say to you for weeks. it WILL be ok. it may not look like you expected, but you will be just fine, you are more than a test score, a grad degree, a desired or expected outcome. those are the lessons i learned from losing or throwing away labels, classifications, expectations, for a solid 7 years and consequently starting completely over (we're talking no spouse, no boyfriend, nowhere to live, no job, no money) at least 4 times. sounds crazy, but i wouldn't exchange the experiences for the world. you will be absolutely fine no matter what happens. you are not your outward trappings. not to be all wacky buddhist. but anyway. believe it or not, your realization is EXACTLY what i’ve been trying to say to you for weeks. it WILL be ok. it may not look like you expected, but you will be just fine, you are more than a test score, a grad degree, a desired or expected outcome.

those are the lessons i learned from losing or throwing away labels, classifications, expectations, for a solid 7 years and consequently starting completely over (we’re talking no spouse, no boyfriend, nowhere to live, no job, no money) at least 4 times. sounds crazy, but i wouldn’t exchange the experiences for the world.

you will be absolutely fine no matter what happens. you are not your outward trappings.

not to be all wacky buddhist. but anyway.

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